Table 3 Examples of the analytic process

A heart defect is serious, of course, it really is, and I sound very calm about it but that is because there’s no reason not to believe it will go fine. That’s how we see it. Because if you don’t, you just can’t take it, I reckon

It is serious, and I sound very calm because there’s no reason not to believe it will go fine. That’s how we see it. If you don’t, you just can’t take it.

Expecting anything else than all will go well would not be possible to manage

Ambivalent feelings of anticipation and worries about the birth

That was really the thing that you pondered about the most, how it will, how will it feel to leave the child, what would happen if there’s chaos with the trains as there is every summer, things like that. What happens if we’re stranded, who has responsibility for us then.

That was the thing you pondered about most, how will it feel to leave the child, what happens if there’s chaos with the trains, things like that. What happens if we’re stranded, who has responsibility for us.

Pondering about the time after the birth

It went like this, we had to deliver and that kind of thing, it became rather... emotional, still.

We had to deliver, it became rather emotional.

The pregnancy termination was emotional

The loss of a wanted child through an emotionally intense pregnancy termination

In part bad conscience I think. It feels like you terminate... someone else, so to say, you take away someone’s chance to live so to say.

In part bad conscience. Feels like you terminate... someone else, you take away someone’s chance to live.

Bad conscience to terminate a life