Table 2 Themes

1. A traumatising system

2. An inflexible system

1. Access to midwifery model of care

2. Inflexible models of care

3 Getting the best of both worlds

1. Researching options and learning to trust in self

2. Doing it my way

3. Having a safety net

4. Respecting choices

4 Treated with love and respect versus the mechanical arm on the car assembly line

1. Respecting choices

2. Negotiated/flexible care feels safe

3. No obligation to conform